We never really see ourselves objectively, (viewed from the outside). We can only ever see ourselves subjectively, (viewed from inside). As such, we can only ever monitor our impact on our environment by the feedback we get from the environment we are in. That feedback can never really be neutral as it is filtered by generalization, deletion, and distortion. (The three universals of human modelling that effects perception, feedback and learning).
So how can we become the best version of ourselves? Surprisingly in a very simple way. A way that was worked out aeons ago. This process has been adapted over time, but the core essentials remain the same.
- Adopt a personal code of ethics and behavior
- Be mindful of your action upon others and upon yourself
Seems simple enough. However, you also need a mindful discipline to achieve this in your life. Let’s look at this deeper.
Adopt a personal code of ethics and behavior. A code of ethics is essential to strengthening your inner core values. It strengthens your morality. Doing what is right.
Mindfulness is essential to checking your behavior and thinking “outside” of yourself. Mindfulness decreases personal bias and judgement of others. Mindfulness also develops an inner peace and flow from within. Mindfulness allows you to contemplate your actions and what effects those actions will imprint on those around you.
Respect is fundamental to right action. There are countless examples of this. One example is when someone does something really stupid most people will call that person stupid. “you are a stupid idiot” This devalues and harms the persons core, is passive aggressive in action and labels a person stupid. Respect in this case would be, “I see what you did was stupid we all learn from our mistakes and let’s look at how we can move forward from this” Separating from the “what you did” from the “you are” shows basic respect. Respect does not mean invalidating yourself to make someone else happy.
The six keys to a happy peaceful powerful life are. Honor – dedication and discipline connected to love – compassion and understanding. This can take a lifetime to master, however it is well worth doing as you become the best version of yourself. Always an ongoing process that leads to wisdom.
Hypnotherapy can help you achieve this in a non-bias way, simply by realigning your focus and strengthening your inner core. I have developed a special process for this and it is in my opinion, well worth the journey.