Fire-walking conquering the shadow self

Let me share with you my first fire waIking experience. That I did in 1987 I hope It encourages you to push your boundaries to new limits.

As I sat in the seminar room looking out into the night, my mind a blur, my eyes focused on the ten metre wall of heat and flames which roared from the fire pit, I wonder how I will face that deep primal fear of burning which all living creatures share.

Like the Tao, There I was looking into life’s mirror, face to face with the self of myself, and like the phoenix ready to dive deep into the ashes of fate only to rise again in a purified and transformed state of being. The fire, a glowing pile of embers and crackling wood is raked into a bed about 5 meters in length. I also note that the fire-bed is around half a meter deep, the walls on either side have been purposely raked higher to contain the heat. (One of the secrets of fire walking is that the fire bed, that part you walk on, is kept at around 1600 to 1800 degrees in heat.)

I soon learn that there are no special creams to protect my feet, no secret ways to scamper across the burning coals and not burn. The fire Master says: “Fire is an energy, and fire walking is REAL. You do it, or you don’t, there is no changing your mind half way across.”

The walk is, of course, optional. The knowledge contained in the five hour seminar which precedes the fire walk, we are told can be applied in daily life, the proof that this knowledge works is tested on the burning coals.

The seminar over, the time has come, and “trial by fire” enters my mind as I look into the flickering red and white hot coals. I feel mortal, sober and vulnerable. The other participants, teenagers and adults of both sexes, including two very courageous 7 and 12 year olds, support each walker as he/she confronts the fire pit by chanting.

The fire master of course goes first to cheers claps ans awe from us all. He makes it seem so easy. I approach the fire. I feel a lump of lead in my stomach and fear courses through my body. We are told that we can walk when we are ready. I feel ready. But as I stand there, the heat is too intense, so I back away, shaken.

Then I approach again and my father’s words from childhood echo in my mind: “if your friends jumped into a fire, would you?” And a wrestling match begins with my inner self and my sense of survival, with my fear of pain and my dark side.This confrontation with my shadow self is terrible. My feet feel like lead and my body like jelly. I know I have to ground myself fast, so I jump up and down placing each foot firmly on the ground like a Sumo wrestler.

Resolved, committed, with purpose and a strong sense of self, I focus beyond the fire pit and finally… walk.

It is hard to explain what happens in those minutes on the coals. The weight of my body crunches into them. The feeling of tons of past guilt and fear lifts from me, and a feeling of intoxicating excitement and happiness floods through me as I make it to the other side. I don’t burn nor blister and deep inside me I sense I have won that inner battle, conquered my shadow self and I feel renewed. The phoenix has risen.

This euphoria stays with me for months and slowly changed into an inner knowing. My work triples, life takes on more worth, my relationships improve, I expand my boundaries, which opens up new doorways I never knew existed.

Since that first fire walk, I have walked on fire many times and each one empowers me more. It’s an exercise in trust and memory now, because it reminds me that I am truly limitless. I have passed my rite of passage.

Many cultures have a rite of passage a shamanistic way of integration into maturity. Sadly we have none, Did the ancients know something that we have long forgotten? I think so, and thanks to practices such as fire walking we can tap that deep inner need in our psyche that urge to achieve, integrate and belong.

There are many ways to conquer your shadow self. Fire walking, meditation, hypnotherapy just to name a few. May you find what is right for you on your path….. Peace.

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Beyond Self Help Gurus

I have many friends that are stuck in self help programs, in fact, they are “course” junkies. Avoiding the process of living a flow-free life, they analyze every action they do, every thought they think and every movement they make. This has trapped them in not being real, trading in one set of beliefs and values for another set, and in so doing, avoiding reality and life in general. In all of this, spontaneity and living life to the full are lost altogether, along with any type of real personal discovery and spiritual/personal growth.

Some of my friends now have new-born babies and they project onto their behavior, a trauma or psychological game that simply isn’t there. Some have even given birth to babies in water to minimize birth trauma, only to project whole histories from both parents onto the new being, simply because both parents haven’t let their histories go. How could they, they keep analyzing and re-living them in their ever present behavior.

I actually saw this in action when a friend’s baby started crying and the father stated categorically and with deep emotional conviction that his child of four months of age was playing games to get the mother’s attention, and in the process was rejecting him just as his mother had done. He asked me in all sincerity if I could do therapy on his baby to offset this “problem”! Naturally I refused. It never occurred to him that his baby might simply be hungry and want some milk. His focus had totally turned within and although some introspection is healthy, being full-on all the time can lead to some very neurotic behavior. with a tendency to escape from life’s realities.

We all project our inner realities onto the world around us to some degree, yet my friend, the self help course junky, had his mind totally stuck in the art of processing all his old past traumas without letting any of them go or to allow any integration and healing to take place. He then projected these negative traumas unconsciously onto the world to the nth degree.

He is always working them out, never letting them go and in so doing will never be able to go beyond them. Funnily enough the whole purpose of personal growth is in achieving just that; to go beyond the negative traumas and debilitating patterns that block us from leading fulfilling lives, by forgiving, learning and integrating them.

It is interesting to note that my friend, before he went to personal growth courses, was pretty much okay. So we have to ask ourselves the question what went wrong?

The answer lies in the simple paradox that many self help gurus need followers just as badly as the followers need the gurus. And no-one is willing to surpass his or her guru. So the guru is given God status which we as simple mortals can never go beyond.

But what is a false self help guru?

Any man or woman can instantly package a personal growth program, do a short course and just through the sheer power of advertising make it as a self help, self published guru, peddling the latest fad, complete with a perfect smile and an aura of “look how good I am and look how you’re not”. Consumer beware applies even more so in this area.

But what is a true guru? I feel that this is anyone in a role of guide, teacher, therapist, shaman and/or healer who points the way, helps you integrate your life’s experience and refuses to play Guru.

Books give us knowledge but experience gives us wisdom. It is sad to see so many text-book self help experts who teach, run courses, point the way yet haven’t experienced anything profound themselves, and what is profound for them may not be profound for you

A true self help person is any person that leads you back to yourself, lives in the real world. He/She lets you discover through experience rather than gives you answers. So let life and experience be your teachers while getting a little help from friends along the way.

My hypnotherapy can do just that, bringing the best of you forward, a gentle discovery towards your own evolution…Peace

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Socially Acceptable Predators

We often think of predators, hiding in the dark shadows, lurking silently and striking in the night; unsavory low lives.  However, in our society predators use the invisibility of openness, trust, technology and social skills to bait their victims to satiate their hidden desires.  They place themselves in trusted and honored positions, like a spider weaving a web in the right place to gain the best possible advantage.

However, what constitutes socially acceptable predators that are just as evil, and dark, yet has everyone’s approval, and when victims fall, we totally and outright blame the victim, and worse still, the chorus of society does the same.

The predators I am writing about are Gambling, Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking. I have to add to this list, computer games desensitizing and teaching our young to accept extreme violence, war and the personal violation and torture of others as okay. At a time when young  brains are still wiring behavior and social skills.

But now the new twist:  As reported in the ABC news website; quote  “Gamers are using Counter-Strike: Global Offensive (CS:GO) — a hugely successful first person shooter game — to bet on virtual weapons that have real world value”. End quote.  They purchase, skins (akin to chips in a casino) with real money, and as the ABC reports: Quote; “It takes just seconds to set up a gambling account for Counter-Strike players, there is no age limit on the gambling website” end quote. It effectively and skilfully bypasses international gambling law and encourages and trains our young to gamble.

The skins are transferable in that they can use them to bet on anything. By linking and entwining gambling to online games covertly, and aimed to appeal to video gamers of all ages is in my opinion, preditorial.  Predatory behavior is any behavior that covertly destroys, diminishes or harms. The people behind this type of predatory behavior lurk with complete anonymity with their tendrils running deep into the lives of many.

The preditorial links that destroys, diminishes or harms you or your friends.

  • Drugs are linked to youth rebellion and a rite of passage into adulthood
  • Alcohol is linked to seduction, and a rite of passage into adulthood
  • Gambling is linked to alcohol drugs and on line video games
  • All aimed at children, teenagers and young adults.
  • All destructive and corrosive in behavioural outcomes.

My Hypnotherapy program is effective and powerful in rescuing you, or those you know in the grip of socially acceptable predators, allowing you to build the strength and dignity, to empower and create a successful life.  …..Peace

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Training your super self

Did you know that your brain (as remarkable that it is) is fundamentally lazy.  It has to be. We call it the conservation of energy. Your brain maps a room that you walk into, but does not have to re-map that room every time you enter it!  Example. You are in a hurry, but can’t find your keys; you look everywhere, and then give up only finding them right under your nose.   Were they invisible? Hidden by gremlins?  The answer is No.

You simply were using an old internal map.  This is because of the brains ability to conserve energy. Let’s face it if you had to re-learn every room in your house every day, then nothing else could ever get done!

We all rely on internal maps for everything.  When a map is used every day such as how to drive a car, then this becomes hard wired, automatic.  But even automatic behavior can lead us into minor sticky situations. When you always take that wrong turn home when driving. Or when you drive to a place you have not been for a while only to find they have changed the roads or shops, and when this happens, your stress levels go up, you hit high confusion. The new territory does not fit the old map.  Solution: Your brain has to re-map the area.  Then you relax.

Another example is the dreaded windows operating system! Where you basically have to re-learn each and every upgrade and have to re-map the new system, and even so, you can’t help but try to use the old map.

The key to being a super self is knowing when to rely on old maps (remembered) and when to switch the brain into (learning) mode where you need conscious observation to take place.

This is where my Hypnotherapy shines the brightest.  You could consciously make the switch from remembered to learning, but that’s a whole lot of complicated internal switching! (Your brain will give up).

What I do is train your subconscious mind to do the observing and to alert your conscious mind to any change if needed). Your subconscious observes everything so we use this natural resource to create all the right connections and bridges within, so you become a super self.

You are not normally trained to utilize your subconscious mind, and it is an area that is immensely under resourced by mostly everybody.  Your subconscious mid does a whole lot more than you realize.  Subconscious observation and super self-training awaits your discovery.

“Come Watson – The game is afoot “     Sir Arthur Conan Doyle: Sherlock Holmes

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Your life’s mission

Ever wonder what your mission in life is?

Q. What you are here for?

I know we all function better by setting goals and achieving, but what are you truly here (on planet Earth) to do? Hypnotherapy can help you focus in on your goals, on what makes you feel content, valuable and above all, worthwhile.  However one way to find your mission in like is rather simple.

A. You’re here to make the world a better place.

Some people do care work, while others look after animal welfare or human rights, looking after nature, nurturing the planet back to health from the negative global impact of the human race.  Slowing down humanities love affair with seeing the earth as a use “once only” commodity to be recklessly destroyed, thrown away, used up, rather than a place we live.

The amount of tree destruction, animal & plant extinction rates are staggering.  not to mention the great oceanic garbage patches and global warming.

So not to be too gloomy, what is your mission? How can you as an individual, make the earth a better more environmentally safe place to live?

As most people are caught up with debt, raising a family or simply surviving, the task may seem too big, too ominous and beyond our humble abilities.  But that’s not entirely true, nor is fixing the problem simply the ability to throw money at it so it becomes somebody Else’s  problem.

I took a stroll on the beach watching the seagulls, feeling the beautiful golden sand under feet, and picked up about two garbage bags of rubbish destined for our ocean deep – destined to kill the environment. It was not a task, just a mindful meditation.  I still enjoyed my walk, enjoyed nature, but chose to respect the environment. Respect the Earth. The place where we all live.

Yes I lobby,  I try to do my bit, but  it now has to be a global effort. I think we all must take a stand and respect the planet we are forever bonded to. There was once even  talk of mining the Moon, but the public outcry stopped this from happening, at least for a short time.  It seems greed has no conscience or ceiling.

Start being active today, (a small step at a time) not only will your life be better for it, (health wise) so will those generations still to come. Peace……………….

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The Medusa Effect

In Greek mythology, the Medusa was a monster in the shape of a beautiful woman with live snakes writhing on her head and somewhat irresistible to look at. Those that looked directly at her would turn forever into stone. The analogy here of stone equates to a soulless, fixed lifeless statue, as if frozen in time. With the loss of love, compassion and understanding; all that makes us truly human.

How often do we face the Medusa by listening to negative talk, half-truths, rumor or people with an ulterior motive; often with hidden agendas spewing venom! All whipped up with a fury and emotion of negative beliefs, urgency and fears, trying desperately to turn you into hating or despising others.  So you end up with a cold heart (heart of stone).

Evil starts as a tiny unnoticeable seed planted by hearsay utilizing such forums as the news, press, media and internet, persuading your thinking and nurturing your hating that grows within, without you even knowing. Like a cancer it slowly eats your humanity away. You become cold, bitter – angry, in effect, turning into stone.

The Medusa was only defeated when she was tricked into looking at her own reflection and in so doing, turned herself into stone. When you confront and reject rumors and generalizations about others, be it race, religion, nationality or creed, you reject that negative mindset from having an acrid (medusa like) effect upon you.

The key is in practicing inner purification, starting with mindfulness. Recognizing that your body is a sacred place; your awareness;  a sacred place.

Being aware consciously of the Medusa effect will stop you turning cold and lifeless. There are medusa s are all around us, unseen but subtly affecting your subconscious, many will appear as leaders, friends or even foes.

With my Hypnotherapy, you can learn powerful mindfulness, meditations. Learning to think for yourself – consciously, questioning things around you, and not accepting or rejecting blindly the nefarious will and influence of others…… Such is true inner power……Peace

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Fast lane of success

As a society we are driven by success. We all know that Neil Armstrong was the first person to step on the Moon. But who was the second or third? Hardly anyone remembers second or third placements.*

Although being first in anything is a great driver to succeed, the downside is that this only applies to one person out of a society of billions of people wanting to be in first place, reminds me of that song “The winner takes it all” (ABBA). The scene is replicated with movie stars (Academy Awards), in sport (Olympics). In any contest there can be only one winner. So does that makes everybody else a failure?

Nobody likes to lose, and those achieving first place have to maintain or defend their position. Everest is littered with dead bodies of those who wanted to push the boundaries to achieve fame and success. Did you know that a lot of people, who succeed, get to the top, suffer depression, because the only way for them now is to either achieve more, or fall of the mountain. Such never ending pressure. Also, add to this the pressure of not letting everybody down.  Do you suffer this in your life or job?

So everyone, resides in a slow non moving traffic jam of socialized conditioning, and only the select few, make it to the fast lane. You see this with the pressure placed on school children, or university students to succeed academically, let alone come to the realization that high achievements may not necessarily equate to success, let alone – a job, or good pay.  Degrees are expensive, poverty is even more expensive!

Society always pushes everyone like seagulls after a tiny piece of bread, everyone fights to be at the top, (survival) and fighting to be at the top can lead to some very ugly, damaging self-debilitating behavior to get there.  Everyone is looking for that “thing” that will bring success, and solve all problems.

The downside of all this can  lead you and your children into negative conditioning and belief of; No-confidence,  depression, anxiety, and the will not to succeed, what’s the use, mentality. Now although I am painting a dark picture. It is a picture nonetheless, that is a shadow of our sociological structures.

Do you suffer “burn out” Job stress? Do you need to redefine your goals and dreams?

My Hypnotherapy can easily turn things around for you, so you and your children can succeed. We cannot change the sociological map set by society. (Floyd’s just another brick in the wall). What we can change is your approach and what strategies you need to get to where you’d like to be.

For children we get their mindset in the right space for study and exams. For adults we get you into the mindset (right zone) for achievement without the fall off the mountain effect into depression anxiety etc. It is not just an attitudinal thing.

Hypnotherapy re-trains you with a really solid self-empowering life changing approach, so you enjoy your journey of life. In a “life nurturing” and supportive way. Through my specialized hypnotherapy program for retraining the brain for more than  just success,  giving you and your family an invaluable life skill, the leading edge.  …..Peace

* Second on the Moon: Edward Aldrin, Third on the Moon: Charles Conrad.

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